WHERE DID MODESTY GO?

Singer Songwriter Keith Harkin tweeted a picture of a young woman standing in a hallway with two fully clothed young men.  They were banging on a door.  The young woman was wearing  a thong string bikini.  Her full backside flopped out like meal time mashed potatoes.  Looking at the image made me grimace and not because I am a prude, or dislike disrobed images of the female form:  she was no modest.

The young artist did not explain his photographic intentions, the picture was just that, no opinion, just a flat: mm mm. Another what do you think type of snapshot.  The way the image was posed got me to thinking about things of long ago, when female modesty was a desired characteristic of female comportment.  Today is the year 2012 and the bad thing is, modesty among women has all but disappeared and taken a turn toward the outlandishly immodest apparel possible and in the most opportunistic and often important of positions.

You might believe women in positions of prominence and power would wield their physical beauty with dignity, grace, composure, and above all modesty.  What I notice is the complete lack of understanding of the word modesty as they flaunt their screaming skin beneath the tightest of polyester pants and blouses that put sonar tracks to the lowest portions of the ocean exposing erupting mounds of lava hills.
I truly wonder what has become of the dignity and modesty that used to be the grand domain of female elegance and beauty.

I will say if you have fat, do not flaunt it to the mounts of moons.  Curves can be proportionate and beautiful, but they do not have to be paraded around and used in positioning power politics for manipulative purposes.  Women are tripping if they thin overly tight and overly low  GCD (Garments, Clothing, Dress) make them more attractive other than to their own self aggrandized pornographic images in their own mirrors.

In certain neighborhoods we do observe women who wear the tightest if jeans, and the tightest of blouses and the lowest of designs...when they walk they look like organic low-riders at a rhythmic bounce.  The question is, what is the mechanics of this process:  "I can wear whatever I want?"  Or is it, "I am hot!"  Or is it: "What you see is what you get...and you can see all of me!"  I am certain whatever the reason it makes sense to the immodest ideals of the sports that wear whatever they want, whenever they want.

Personally I feel the lose of female feminine modesty is a lose for all women.

Women have a duty to care about how they appear, not only in public, but within the privacy of their family home.  Women carry the legacy of modest appearance.  It is demur, dignified, grace filled, lovely, and brings a joy of reverence and respect to those graced with the presence of a modest caring woman.  Women are born with this responsibility.  Various societies plow under these delicate social ideals.
Women grow bitter, and give up the beauty in order to survive.  I believe modesty helps them to survive.

Some family situations force women to become undignified, hardened to their natural beauty, and because of man's desire they are forced to flaunt their bodies in undignified ways to appease the desires of men.  Some men on the other hand love women who wear modest deportment and respect their position in a culture.

Either way modesty is choice.  And that choice is being lost because women are confused as to how to dress.  Lost as how to walk.  Lost as how to consider themselves in the light of all their modern duties.  Do they roll em up, pull em down, wear em  short, wear em long, buy it skin tight, make it loose,  wrap it, tie it, belt it, or burn all the old clothes and buy a new wardrobe!  We are a style crazed, garment bulged social structure, composed of women who have lost the focus of the meaning of femininity and modest dress.

The biking cycle culture has to have it all skin tight.  The rock climbers and to peel down to the bear minimum.  Bathing suits are barely nothing, but our own skin...and those who are overweight are encouraged to wear bikinis anyway, with the problem belonging to "anyone else who stares!"

That is the turning point of modesty.  If a woman wears a bit of clothing that draws attention to her over spacious and rebellious flesh...the population will turn a face to stare.  Is not that why she is flaunting her over ambitious body in the first place.  She wants people to look.  Then she can start her conflict and her social chaos.  "Oh my God, he is looking at me!"  "Stop, stop staring at me!"  And then we might hear,"he is perverted because he was staring at me!"  What women like that expose themselves to a surrounding environment of public eyes and expect not to be stared at?  Instead of beach/taco stands and beach/hot dog stands, the new thriving economy is BLINDERS for sale!"  Save your eyes and do not look!

All clothing stores that sell bathing suits used to sell lovely matching cover-ups of the same colors and fabric, and feminine modesty was preserved.  What happened to that idea?  It disappeared like the seagulls on the horizon.  On the beach men are partly to blame for this shift in female thinking because they might have encouraged the bikini clad maidens to "flaunt it all!"  And we are back to the fight.  Women want to be modest, and live in the light of beauty and grace and yet they are prodded and goaded to show more, give more, put it out there!
So what viewpoint wins?

Modesty and its delicate dimensions of dress is slowly sliding and in limbo.  We got to save it!  It does hold on in some corners of the globe.  The Muslims have great expectations for the women to cover up, but is it for modest purposes or something other?  Maybe the family can afford a few sheets of wrapped fabric as opposed to clothing that is stitched together by a sewing machine, and maybe the garment of sheets needs no underclothing, so saves on that expense as well.  And if they stay covered-up, they may use less water, less bedding at night, due to not needing sheets...and so what may appear to Westerners as a garment of female modesty, is merely a garment of pure environmental economy.  The wrapped sheets also dispel wayward stares from desiring male eyes, and thus reduce conflicts of jealousy.  In the kitchen if a woman wearing a sheet garment needs to wash dishes or wipe the table or the food from the baby...a corner of her sheet she is wearing comes in handy.  Although these may be improbable and strange ways of dealing with domestic chores the Muslim sheets have many practical purposes without ever taking them off or showing the female body.  The fabric in the sheets can be used for many domestic chores and practical purposes.  The garments may be worn and regarded as more than political signals, or religious determinants.

We of the Western Cultures have re-engineered clothing and thereby have changed the ideals of modesty into a blaze of glory for all women kind.  Our clothes reflect our status, our duties, our positions of power, our ever changing moods, our seasons of the year, our feelings of the moment, our sport activity, our desires,  our travel destinations, our social statements, our religious beliefs, our political beliefs and our sexual drives.    One simple white or off colored sheet will not serve all these creative urges.  We have devised different types of fabrics sewn into hundreds of designs and patterns to serve all our needs, and some do include the waning experience of feminine modesty.

We have created towels for bathing, washing, wiping and whatever else the process of birth, used up, and worn out leads to.  Among towels we have small, medium and big...we have colors and patterns and thicknesses and numbers of warps and wefts and tightness of weaves.  We have table cloths, and wash cloths, and curtains, and spreads, and sheets, and rugs, and endless varieties of fabrics for clothing in every color of the rainbow and every chemical combination man and God can put together.  Does all of this bring women closer to the quality of female MODESTY?  No that I can tell.

What appears to give us more in terms of choices also increases our choices in female and male behaviors toward the interaction of all these choices and behaviors.  While women are having a great time with all the choices and ways to alter their appearances and behaviors they are not necessarily guided to the idea of female modesty.  If anything, it appears they are being grossly misled.  All of this fabric distillation has come close to creating a garment war.  The fabrics are behind a mood change within the populations of the people.

The problems may not be overweight women trying to squeeze into the bikini or the stretch poly pants, or look pretty in Victoria's Secret Under weapons... or dropping her neckline to reveal a diamond studded Belly-Post and two rolling naughty breasts...it may be that women just can not find satisfaction either at home with their husbands or in particular who they are as women.  They are so lost in this stream of seasonal social seaming of fabrics and accessories, they just do not know what they are doing or who they are.

One sheet is closer to the ideal of modesty and beauty than all the choices laid on the table for the players in the game of "dress code!"

Dress code does not really exist if you are the person in charge of manipulating the dress code to where you use it to have the advantage over all the other people who do not have a choice in their wearing apparel.  One immodest female leader can set the stage of the ruination of all the others, simply because she ignores her basic female duties of inspiration for the orders of modesty.  If she moves forward on the binding contract of manipulative dress, wearing clothing to turn male eyes on her, or make her leadership carved from female sexual manipulation as opposed to leading by purposes and integrity...then she is obviously confused by her true nature of love and beauty.

Princess Diana was the perfection of modesty.  A true royal ruler of fashion and femininity. She was elegant beyond her days.  She held dignity and grace and carried her being in such a way that she inspired billions of humans with a love of her great beauty.  She held her finest hour stating this as her cause.  Princess Diana did not flaunt her body, nor her position through her choices of clothing.

Jacqueline Kennedy, the late first lady of the USA was one of these women also.  She as well carried herself and her garment choices with a beauty and dignity that spoke of the knowledge of female modesty.  She did not flaunt her body, nor her position through her choices of clothing.

Both of these women, Princess Diana and Jackie Kennedy held a sense of organized fashion in their approach to their public appearances and world view.  What they understood about how to dress, was much more than simple presentation of a fashion choice.  It was a statement of MODESTY.

In the United States, Mormon Women, Jehovah's Women, and often Catholic Women can be seen demonstrating this same system of female modesty.  But there are women who are grossly confused about the ideas of appropriate business dress coding.  Teachers are often ignorant of proper dress in front of students, as well as the leaders of businesses.  What these women express to me, is social fashion confusion.  It is not that they desire to be mal-dressed in front of their students or employees, they just are ignorant of the impact they make on other people.  They are so impressed with their own self important and self indulgent lives they have given up on the values they are supposed to be standing up for.  The clothing they wear reflects their attitudes of being "holier than thou", being sexually dominant, and wearing what they want just because they are placed in charge of something and can.  It is not the grace and modesty of power that Princess Diana exhibited, who was a school teacher, and Jackie Kennedy who was a socialite of great dignity.

Apparently American in general does not want its women to understand or know what they are doing with their fashion sense.  The more chaos that is created by the fashion industry and the ideals that it uses to achieve volume sales, the more money there will be to support the industry.  This means they are not in the least concerned whether or not women retain a spec of MODESTY or gentle decorum that helps brings peace to a global society.  We labor under mountains of threads and are repeatedly disdained for our hard work and generous efforts and we are no closer to sorting out the direction of salvation than at any time before....I declare we need to reinvent MODESTY FOR ALL WOMEN.